Yesterday I spent some time exchanging e-mails with a colleague. We were both lamenting how difficult it is to make friends after 40.

A friend is defined as a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. (so possibly this colleague is actually a friend? Although a friend who lives too damn far away). We all have them, have had them, effortless to find in our youth and even more so in our twenties but apparently there is then a breaking point.

“The pool of friendship opportunity when we get into our 30’s, 40’s and 50’s is a smaller pool,” University of St. Thomas professor Dr. Carol Bruess says.

We are not talking “Facebook friends” we are talking about living breathing people who you interact with. Social Psychologists point to the age of 30 as the tipping point when making friends becomes a bit more of…

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